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Why I Fell Out Of Love With Blogging

18/07/2017


It's been such a long time since I wrote a blog post, I think I have forgotten how to write one, and probably will come across blunt as ever during this post.PS: I am so aware that the image is extremely unrelated!  I remember being so in love with blogging, but so many things steered me away from my love for it. I have been trying to fall back in love with blogging for a long, long time.. But I overthought the whole blogging process over and over, which actually made me hate the idea of coming back. However, after the last few months, it had really occurred to me how much I missed writing. That is why I am coming back with a post on why I fell out of love with blogging.

Firstly, the pressure of posting on time. I think every blogger will relate to this as sometimes blogging can sometimes feel like a chore or a job, more than a hobby. I used to set strict time tables where I would make sure I wrote a post, thought of ideas, take photos, edit photos, buy products, test products, check comments, reply to comments, edit posts, publish posts, promote posts, take part in twitter chats, instagram photos and over and over again. Then when I didn't stick to my time table or missed the day I was meant to post, I would be so disappointed in myself - and for what? I needed to remind myself that blogging was just a hobby. I'm not some first class, fantastic magazine editor or author - although I'd love to be, I am me, a blogger. 

Secondly, as well as my strict time table, I was full time at college and had a weekend job, a boyfriend, family, friends and a gym membership to juggle too. I have just finished my last year in college and I realized how much work I had to put into it, so I had to prioritize what was more important. But with everything, blogging became unimportant and the last thing I would think about. I now have more time on my hands and undoubtedly have missed blogging because it was my only hobby. 

Thirdly, opinions. I have always struggled with the idea of people I know personally knowing about my blog. There have been many times where I have had the courage to promote my posts publicly and later on I have had a few snide comments about it - people telling me I think I'm someone who I'm not, or trying to be something I never will be. It has made me feel anxious and upset previously, but I have however come to the conclusion that I am a blogger and that is someone I am, not what I think I am and I am a blogger, I'm not trying to be one, because I am. 

Also, the idea of not being as good as another blogger. I have heard so many bloggers say about them feeling not as good as other bloggers, whether it's their blog design or content, or whether it's how many followers they have on social media. I never thought of it, until I started feeling it. I always said reading other blogs made me inspired and kept me up on the times, but it got to the point where I would look further into reading blogs and looking at their designs and hating how mine looked, wishing it would be more professional or more pretty. But the thing is, my blog represents me and now that I realize that, maybe I will stop looking and start being inspired again.

Finally, losing my friend. My best friend and I began our blogs together at the same time in 2015, went to London to a blogger event together and even started a blog with a group of other girls together. This year we became distant and we are no longer stay in touch, which has made me fall out of blogging a lot. The reason behind this is because I was unsure of how to come back without her and I always thought "who's going to read my posts now?". However, as time has gone by, I have accepted that this is the way it is and I have to find my love for blogging again, even if it is without her. I'm unsure whether Tiffany will start her blog again, although one last time I want to suggest you go and read her wonderful blog here

I have decided to start back blogging because I have genuinely missed it. I have missed the wonderful blogger community, as well as being part of it. I am happy to say that I am back and that I am looking into rebranding soon - once I get back on track as I have basically forgotten how to do everything.  

XOXO

26 comments on "Why I Fell Out Of Love With Blogging"
  1. Write about what you love, and love doing it. I have no schedule, no plan and I am currently enjoying it.x

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  2. I've also just returned after a bit of a blogging break. (The last time I consistantly posted was October last year!) I think we all go through these phases. I've decided to come back to blogging with out the pressures. I will post when I want and what I want. Quality over quantity. xx

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  3. Sometimes all you need is a break to get your mojo back and it is always the community that gets me through any bad times. Welcome back

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  4. I think we all go through the motions of not knowing where we belong in the world of blogging. I work full time, am a wife and have 3 cats and for me blogging is a form of escapism from everyday life x

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  5. I think it's natural to feel like that. I've been blogging for 12 years and constantly fall out of love with it!

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  6. I think the issue of opinions is something that I've been dealing with recently. I'm often worried about how people will take what I've written and how they'll respond... It does concern me a lot

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  7. I really hear you on this! I'm going through the same shift myself and it sucks. Sounds like you got a lot stacked up, but as soon as you stop thinking about how you 'need' to blog and start to ask yourself how you 'want' to blog, the inspiration will flow. I can imagine it's disheartening not having your pal around, but don't forget how therapeutic blogging can be. Did you feel better getting this off your chest? Maybe open up a new draft and think about what you want to say you your friend. You don't have to post it, or send it to her, but it might just be the soul baring exercise you need to get back your mojo for writing.

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  8. I hate all the game playing with blogging. Sometimes it feels like unless you do stupid things like follow unfollow (which I hate!) you won't ever make it as a blogger! That said I love blogging and can't imagine not!

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  9. Oh lovely. I totally know how you feel. I like to take a week off now & then, just to calm down & get my mojo back. xx

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  10. I think every blogger goes through this, but the majority don't come back and that's where their journey ends. So to come back again means you have the blogger in you ;)

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  11. It's half the battle when you enjoy doing it, and I find when I work when I want to it's less stressful :)

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  12. I think you should take it easy at first to get back into it. Hopefully you will realise why you fell in love with blogging at first if you don't set yourself a strict timetable. Try and write for fun! I try my best to do everything every day but I don't get myself down about it. Don't be too hard on yourself.

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  13. I find it go in fits and starts - sometimes I LOVE blogging and have so many ideas. Other times I have zero motivation x

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  14. Hugs. Enjoy the process and recall why you began blogging. That is more than enough. A refreshing and honest post.

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  15. I think you have to remember about why you started blogging, if it's just a hobby don't put pressure on yourself and you'll fall back into it x

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  16. I think a break from blogging was a good idea. Sometimes I feel myself falling out of love with it and I just back off a little.

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  17. Blogging can sometimes be so hard can't it? I think we all have phases where we start to think why am I doing this and that we need to take a break. Don't put pressure on yourself, just ease yourself back in slowly x

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  18. My friend Sam is going through a similar phase at the moment. She'd been blogging for about 5 years, but fell out of love with the various sites that she'd published. She's back into it now, and has rekindled her relationship with writing, which is great cos (like you) she's a very talented writer. I have my fingers crossed for you this time around! x

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  19. Blogging can be a tough scene and very competitve, depending on what you want from it. I would go back to basics, write about the things you love and forget about everyone else.

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  20. Blogging is pretty darn hard at times and it really takes some doing to keep going all the time, i think a break does us good!

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  21. Aw hun :( I am sorry to hear about how you have felt in recent months and there were situations which made you feel like you were not good enough. Let me tell you something very important, social media is vicious and always makes us compare ourselves to others who might have more followers than us or have a better feed but what we have to remember is that we are all at different stages, just work on what is best for you. I know what it is like to have blogger burnout but I am pleased that you have fallen back in love with Blogging x

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  22. I think it's only natural to fall out of love with blogging sometimes, but I'm glad you're back! xxx

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  23. I think it's natural to feel like this when it comes to blogging. I quite often fall out and then back in love with it x

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  24. I couldn't agree more on the pressure to post, I've been lucky if I've gotten one post up a week lately as life has just been so busy. I'm glad you've made a comeback though and look forward to seeing more. Ignore snide comments too, it's usually jealousy or because people don't understand

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  25. It's something i have a love hate relationship with too from time to time. I am sorry you felt this way but glad you are back into it.

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  26. Ahh I can totally relate to this! Sometimes we just need a break. I hope you find your mojo again - you'll pick it up in no time!x

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