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The Bullsh*t of a Perfect Relationship

Thursday, 22 February 2018



In today's post I wanted to talk about perfect relationships. Do they exist? Or is everything about a perfect relationship utter bullshit? I'm going to tell you about the oo's and ah's, the in's and the out's of a relationship, whether it is something you have experienced or not, at the end of this post you may either be completely put off relationships, or be more open minded about being in one or getting in them. I reached out to my followers on twitter and asked in a poll whether they thought their relationship was perfect.. Out of 42 votes, only 19% thought yes, 33% voted sometimes and a 48% said no. 

As a quick disclaimer this post is based on my own relationships and relationships which have been built around me. 

I am now 20 years old, and I have had what I think, two long term relationships. My first long term relationship was with someone I met just three months before making it 'official' and lasted a year and a half . Was it perfect? No. My second long term relationship is the relationship I am currently in, except this time we have known each other for six years. Is my relationship perfect? NO. The relationships my friends and family have, they are not perfect either. So, what is perfect? Will my relationship ever be perfect? Of course, at times, moments in my relationship do feel that way, but most of the time it isn't because life gets in the way.

My personal thoughts on a relationship is that your relationship is going to be the way you let it be. For those of you in new relationships, if you think your relationship is perfect... then maybe wait until the "honeymoon" period wares off and then think again. If you are one of those very lucky people who actually has a perfect relationship, then bravo! These days, relationships are everywhere. Couples will pass you in the street hand in hand, looking so happy, then you'll see couples posting everywhere on social media with pictures and soppy captions, but we don't see what's behind closed doors and behind those pictures. I have found myself comparing many of my relationships to those I see online, wondering why they can't be as simple and amazing as the ones I have seen. It is actually quite sad thinking about it, but let us all be honest, we all have at least once wished for a relationship like Kelly has down the road. 

Relationships are fun, but difficult. You are allowing yourself to share your life with this random person who's decided to do the same. Maybe, you meet this person in a totally normal way, for example, at school, college, university, at work, down the pub or even in a club. Or maybe, you could meet this person in the most random place, such as the soup aisle in Tesco's, when your running on the treadmill in the gym and catch them looking at you in the mirror, or even meeting them when they are delivering your pizza. Who knows? That is your story. But meeting this person is just the start. Hell, it feels amazing to have someone in my life where I can talk absolute crap without being judged. It is nice to have someone to cook for me when I am so not in the mood to move, or to scoff a takeaway with whilst having a Friends marathon for the tenth time. It is also great having someone to sleep next to, wake up to and basically do everything together which you'd usually do solo. I bet when you first started dating your other half, you didn't think about the argument you would have about who's going to do the dishes or who's going to do the dirty laundry? My guess is, probably not. The smallest things can drive me up the bloody wall with my boyfriend - seriously! 

The way I see it is, all relationships will have a rough patch, unless your twelve and you last a week, then we'll rule that one out. In my own mind, since I was as young as I remember, up until this day, I have always painted a pretty picture of what my perfect relationship would be like. This dream relationship would be where both of us were constantly happy, loved every single thing about each other, no issues whatsoever. But let's face it, will that ever happen? Probably not. As a couple you are not going to agree on everything, you will hate each other, and remember those small things which made you fall for your other half? You will eventually hate them too. Now, I'm not saying if your relationship isn't perfect, that it won't work, because it will, if it is worth it. 

The most minor problems as a couple which you needn't worry about are things such as neither of you wanting to watch what the other does in the cinema, what to have for dinner, or the fact they snore like a gorilla. Real problems are where you find yourself stuck and begging for a way out. I find that a lot of relationships are built on lies. It is almost everyone's way out of letting the other person see the bad in them, because obviously nobody wants someone they just met to hate them before they even get started. But sometimes, lies get taken too far or they don't uncover. It is that moment where you think you know everything and for example someone else comes out with something you have never heard, or heard a different story. The moment where you find yourself not knowing who the hell you're with, but it's the willingness inside of you to work through it. It is also small things such as not having any money. Money isn't everything but it does help a lot for your own independence, and if you don't have that, then you will find yourself relying on you other half, which will most definitely cause problems in the future. 

HOWEVER, the beauty of a relationship is that, whether it works out or not, you will find yourself and who you really are through it. You will figure out your worth, even after putting up with things you never thought you would, but after that you will never settle for anything less. You will realize things about yourself, such as having it in yourself to understand how to love someone at their worst, or even when they least deserve it, putting yourself through the inevitable and then, coming out stronger. The truth is though, you shouldn't have to pretend to yourself that your relationship is perfect, you should be happy in whatever relationship you are in. If you struggle to find happiness, get out.

So, relationships are not what they are made out to be. It won't always be breakfast in bed and foot rubs, you will come across hard times. Personally, a relationship will never always be perfect. Life will get in the way. My relationship is not perfect, but I am very happy. I will post my relationship on social media, I will act like it is amazing. I will not expose the problems of my relationship, as that is between us. But we are far from perfect. A real relationship is not perfect. A real relationship is where two people will respect each other and work through their problems together, have the right priorities, are willing to make compromises and eventually fight for the relationship and come out even stronger at the end. This way you will be perfect for each other, in a real relationship.


The bullshit of a perfect relationship is that it exists.

A Makeup Review - Fenty Beauty

Thursday, 1 February 2018


As we all know, the absolute goddess, Rihanna or otherwise known as Robyn Fenty, has brought out her own makeup brand, 100% cruelty free! If you don't know about Fenty Beauty then where the hell have you been hiding?! Everyone I know is so impressed with the diverse shade range, 40 shades to be exact and I so desperately needed to be matched again as I have changed colour since I last got matched (how??!!). So after watching probably over 50 first impressions on YouTube and reading post over post's of "Is Fenty Beauty worth the hype?", I decided why not jump on the bandwagon and give it a go myself! Not all reviews are positive but that's exactly like every other brand right? I went online to try and order but I honestly didn't know what shade I was as the website I usually use to match my foundation (findation.com) hasn't been updated yet and doesn't have Fenty Beauty as an option. I looked at swatches everywhere and tried to find people who were using a shade in my other foundation but I actually couldn't. As Fenty Beauty is exclusive to Harvey Nichols, I couldn't exactly get it locally as I don't live anywhere near the nearest one, so I decided to wait until my birthday when I was in London so I could actually get it.

By the time I was at London I had chosen I didn't just want the Pro Filt'r Soft Matte Longwear Foundation (what a mouthful!), I also wanted to try the Match Stix Trio and the Pro Filt'r Instant Retouch Primer. As well as wanting a new foundation, I wanted to have a new primer as I turned on the one I was using for the last few months. When I got to Harvey Nichols, there was a queue outside to wait to be matched - what? I really have never been in a queue to be matched! The woman who matched me was super nice, but I also don't think I had a choice on what colour Matc Stix's I actually wanted, she just told me.

I should mention that my skin type is normal to combination skin. Some days I get oily in my T-Zone but other days I don't at all. I don't suffer from acne but do have the odd pimple every now and then and I do have some scarring from previous spots.



The Pro Filt'r Instant Retouch Primer retails at £24 for 32ml of product. This primer is actually the best primer I have ever tried. I use one and a half pumps and in my opinion that is more than enough to set my skin in place for my foundation. The primer is a sort of lotion formula and feels so nice when putting it on my face. I don't know if it's just me being delusional but.. I also feel like the primer smooths out the texture of my face and blurs my imperfections ever so slightly. For my skin it does matte it and it doesn't dry my skin up too much. If you have very dry skin then I wouldn't recommend this primer as it could do more harm than good by drying up your skin too much. On the other hand, if you have oily skin, I think the primer would not last all day and that you would have to powder and possibly touch up throughout the day. The only thing I hate about this primer is the fact it is so damn hard to photograph! It literally would not stay still!



The Pro Filt'r Soft Matte Longwear Foundation retails at £26 for 32ml of product. Personally, the price is so good for how much product you get and cheaper than most high end foundations. The shade I use is 120, a neutral toned liquid foundation. I do feel like this is a perfect match for the colour I am now. Personally, the foundation does oxidize ever so slightly, but it doesn't go to that weird orange or pink colour like some other foundations do. Personally, the foundation is medium coverage, although it is definitely buildable to get that full coverage look. I was actually surprised at how well the coverage was despite the foundation being so runny. Depending on what I want, I use two pumps for an even medium coverage and then a further two pumps if I want my foundation to be full coverage with my beauty blender. I tried both a beauty blender and a range of foundation brushes, including a stippling and kabuki brush and I much rather the finish with a beauty blender. When I started to use the foundation, it wouldn't sit right on my face and it wasn't longwear at all. But now that I've got the jist of things and the foundation sits amazing on my face. I have even been to the gym with this foundation on without powder and it hasn't moved! I should also mention that it does not feel heavy on my face, I actually feel quite bare when I use it! Compared to my other go to foundation, Estee Lauder Double Wear Stay in Place, the Fenty Beauty one has less coverage but lasts as long as the Estee Lauder foundation.



The Match Stix Trio retail at £46 or at £21 if sold individually. 


The contour Match Stix is my favourite one of the three by far. I use the shade Mocha, a cool toned contour stick although it totally doesn't look cool toned in the picture?? Before now I have never used a contour stick, but honestly I have never used something so amazing in my life! It blends in so easily and beautifully that you won't look like you have a helmet on or like you have mud on your cheeks! The best thing about the combination of the foundation and the contour stick is that the foundation doesn't come off underneath - I am however yet to try the contour stick with another foundation, so hold that thought!


The concealer Match Stix I definitely have mixed feelings about. I use the shade Bamboo. I don't know about you but there is something so satisfying about having a lighter concealer for that bright undereye. But this concealer is basically the exact same colour as my foundation ehh? At first I found this concealer pretty pointless as the foundation does the job of covering up all my redness. But, then I found that if my foundation starts to look a bit crap I can touch up using this instead of wasting more foundation! I also found that although it is not an eye primer, it is one of the best concealers I have used to prime my eyelids. It does the job right? I guess if the foundation doesn't cover your imperfections as well or even if you just want a lighter coverage, this concealer would work wonders.. but for me it's pretty pointless. I think I'll stick to my trust Collection Lasting Perfection.


This is a Match Stix Shimmer Skinstick in the shade Trippin. Honestly, I wish this wasn't in the trio. Don't get me wrong the colour is beautiful and when I swatch it on my hand, I could die. My first impression of this was so-so bad. Honestly. When the woman put this on my face on top of my own make up I looked like a frickin clown! I looked in the mirror and pretended I loved it because she looked so amazed with her masterpiece - NO! I was genuinely so embarrassed that I barely looked at my boyfriend, like please don't look at me! I think she put it on too heavy or something because it just looked stupid. Although, when I tried it myself it didn't look much better mind. I'm not a massive fan of blush but I do sometimes on the rarest occasion dig out my blush when I'm feeling a change. But no, no. I tried it as a highlight because the woman said I could do that too, uh what a mess! I love highlight but there's nothing worse than having a pink stripe on your cheekbone! SO I tried it on my eyes, as she said I could do that too. It didn't do much either, and I would never us this colour on my lid on its own and my powder shadows are way more pigmented. My last resort was to try it on my lips. It looks sh*t alone. But, finally (!!!), I found a way to use this stupid stick and make it look pretty! I used it on top of one of my lipsticks, I found the gods of this product. 


Overall, I found a new makeup brand to fall in love with. Could we also just appreciate the packaging? What are your opinions on Fenty Beauty?
See you soon,
XoXo

My Favourite Restaurants

Thursday, 18 January 2018

Firstly, Happy New Year! I have decided to jump back into the blogging world, which I have desperately wanted to for a long time, despite trying a couple of times to make an effort. I just haven't been in the right mindset to focus on my blogging. However, now I am and I'm coming back with my five favourite restaurants over the UK.

Being a huge lover of food (which you probably are too if you're reading this), I have chosen to write about my five favourite restaurants in the UK, which I have visited over the last year. I am well aware that some of these restaurants are independent - but at least if you are planning on trying somewhere new to eat or planning to visit the UK, you can jot down one or two of my favourites if they tickle your fancy.
                                                                                                                                                                 

My all time favourite is actually a new restaurant I've come across as it has recently opened up nearby. Turtle Bay is a Caribbean restaurant with a range of meals to choose from, from burgers to curries. Personally, I think that there is something on the menu suitable for all kinds of people, with vegetarian and gluten free options available. My favourite choice of food yet is the Garlic 'N' Herb Flatbread and the Jerk Pit Wings (duck wings) for starters and for mains the Trini Curry Chicken. The stunning food aside, the drinks available are also sooooooo nice! If you don't or can't drink alcohol, the soft drinks menu is just as nice. My favourite soft's are definitely the passion fruit cooler and the pineappleade. 






Another restaurant I absolutely love, but yet to return to is The Mermaid in Mumbles - I'm not sure if there are any other restaurants connected to this one, but if you ever find yourself in Mumbles then you should definitely visit! I love the interior and atmosphere most but the food is equally as stunning. Definitely get the sharer because it is so cheap in price for how much you get! The food and drink menu is basic - what you'd usually find in standard restaurant's but they do regular specials.



Another restaurant in Mumbles, Verdi's. This restaurant has such an amazing view of the sea and a short walk to the arcade which makes me love this location even more. The restaurant itself is split into both a cafe and a ice cream parlour and who doesn't love ice cream?! There are so many food options to choose from and my favourites are always the pasta dishes! Even the ice cream menu has so many different flavours - reasonably priced too! I won't bother posting the picture as it is the main one of the post.






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One restaurant which you definitely can't find just anywhere is the restaurant in Bristol Zoo, The Hide. I was quite shocked at the variety of food available considering it was a restaurant at a zoo - as well as being shocked at the gorgeous interior. I would definitely go back to Bristol Zoo just to eat at the restaurant! The pizza I had was probably the best pizza I have ever tasted, I'm not lying. The service was fantastic too - we had to move for an elderly couple and in return the staff gave us free dessert - which I of course was in my element.


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Finally, the last restaurant I want to mention is Harry Ramsden. I am aware these are distributed largely across the UK. I am not usually a "fish and chips" kind of gal', but my boyfriend suggested I try it out at Harry Ramsden. I loved it! I don't think I have ever tasted a nicer fish and chips combo, and I would never eat it unless I was in this restaurant or if I made it myself. So, this is up there with my favourite restaurants for allowing me to actually love a meal I actually can't stand!


I hope I haven't bored you too much and convinced you to try out some new restaurants - or at least some new dishes. What are your favourite restaurants an dishes? Let me know in the comments!

XOXO